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I have one very difficult problem. Last time my husband and I can't find common language. Constant quarrels, insult from his side… So sometimes I would like to spit upon all and to leave! But something keeps … maybe love, or a habit. I can not say exactly. But it is a pity to leave him not looking on all to his mucks.
But the problem is in following. We have a son. Our little son is wonderful kind, tender, clever and with humour, but quick, nimble and playful, moreover rested, with obstinate character (probably, like his dad). And so the husband always brings him up, as adult, and not simply as the adult, but like in an army! My belief and explanations in this occasion are not perceived … a result: the son is afraid of him, and also does not love. And once my son has told me « mum, find to me another daddy … » the SHOCK! I thought, that it is simply told under impression. But some time passed (about half-year) and the son again, quite seriously asks, that I leave our daddy. « cannot you really find other mister, kind who will not swear and offend us? » « But in fact it is your daddy, and you do not known, how will be the another's mister … and to find him I have to meet and date with different men … do you like it? » « I am ready on it, only let I will have another daddy … ». I have omitted all belief for the son concerning that the daddy loves him and wants better … because it has not conceived action. And actually I simply do not know what to do!!! I am tormented because of nasty character of my husband and the son suffers, but nevertheless he is the true father and … and I do not know why it is a pity to leave him. In fact he is not always bad, sometimes happens such idyll … as at cinema … What to do? Also what it is better in this situation for the child?
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