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Women actually do think differently than men. They use both lobes more when thinking and problem solving. This may be one of the reasons men are better able to focus. While a man is able to focus on sex, the woman is thinking of many things at once--can the kids hear, does he love me, he's touching my fat, are my breasts large enough, do I smell good, is my hair or makeup mussed, am I sexy enough, when is this orgasm going to arrive? Most women will verify that, at least occasionally, this is what goes on in their heads in the middle of having sex. It's not that she's not interested, it's just a habit from her daily life.
On top of all that is the cultural stuff that's laid on a little girl, which travels with her into her adulthood: good girls don't; I'm a lady; I was supposed to say no, now I'm supposed to say yes?; If I enjoy it will he think I'm a slut?; and, I don't know how to do any of this sex stuff, no one ever taught me how.
If a woman's ability to orgasm isn't tweaked by all that, let's then add the damage caused by the media: am I sexy enough; is my body perfect enough; am I worldly enough?, and how can I compete with all those sexy women that stare out at me from every magazine, billboard, TV show and movie?
So, what can a woman do to improve her ability to orgasm? Well, first of all, she must know what she likes. Most men get turned on by their partner enjoying sex and especially coming. Men say all the time, "We want to make you happy, just tell us what you want." It's a turn-on to talk about what you like. Do it over a candlelight dinner by telling him what you'd like him to do to you. He'll probably ask for the check immediately. Another good time is while you're cuddling in bed before or after lovemaking. During lovemaking, move his hand or body or mouth where you like it, tell him harder, softer, faster, slower. Believe me, he's listening.
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